MD and Mrs. Jones, Mrs Jones, Mrs Joooones

Okay Okay Okay....

So.  When I started working with MD he introduced me to Ms. Jones who used to be his driver.  (MD has drivers)  So she would come into the office just to use the computer.  Sweet older lady.  We would chat and laugh and all.  So in the mornings I often go to McDonalds and sit and have coffee and take calls and post my listings etc so I wouldn't just be sitting in the office by myself.  So Ms. Jones saw me at McDonalds one day and started coming and having coffee with me every morning.

So after we got comfortable with each other she began to talk about MD A LOT!

"He's such a narcissist"

"He's never going to leave his wife"

"You don't need a married man"  to which my reply was "I don't want him."

(I'm pretty sure you can tell where this is going)

So I would tell Crab about all of these conversations and he would tell me "Don't tell her anything.  She definitely fucked him"

So as time went by and the conversations continued she seemed to be becoming more angry and resentful and I realized Crab was right!  There was just too much of anger and one day she said "Don't let him fool you I wasn't his driver."

Me being the type never to ask questions I didn't even pursue more information when she threw the HUGE hint at me.  I just decided "Less is more" in this situation.  Secrets are better left to those involved.  I don't want the responsibility of knowing their secret.

So the other morning Ms Johnson calls me while I'm sitting with MD and he starts doing the slash to the neck sign and saying "Stop talking to her!"

So when I hang up the phone he says

"I want you to hear from me. I fucked her.  A long time ago.  Now she's trying to see if I'm fucking you.  Just Stop talking to her.  I fucked her daughter too. But it was a long time ago so don't let it bother you"

So I said "I'm pretty sure when we walk down the street I pass at least several girls a week that you fucked." To which he replied "Yeah you're probably right" SMH

But, it wasn't a long time ago....  I can tell by the stories Ms Jones tells.

I can tell by the way she stomped out of the office when MD announced he was taking his wife on a 2 week vacation soon.

She says "You see how he tried to rub it in your face?"

I'm like "He didn't try and rub anything in my face.  Why would I care if he took his wife away?"

She was HOT!

HOT!

He just can't help himself.  He just cant.

And I've realized through the stories she has told me about his childhood about how he felt unwanted and how he cried to her about his parents shipping him off for other people to raise him that...

He has a shit load of self worth issues.

It explains a lot of his arrogant pompous behavior and his need to belittle people.

Whelp! Thank goodness he's not my problem.

Smart Girl

Oh my goodness. I bet you guys are probably tired of the love conversations but... there isn't much else to say. So look

This time in my car and I'm driving.

MD: Do you think what we did was fucking or making love?
Me: Making love I guess.
MD: So you do love me!
Me: Yes I love you. I'm not in love with you and I never will allow myself to be in love with you.
MD: That's smart of you
Me: Yeah. I know.

He's a real jerk. A real real jerk!

Oh my gosh! I forgot to tell you guys something!

I'll tell you tomorrow...

Update

Sorry I've been missing for a few days.  So busy!  Anyway.  I'm typing fast b/c MD will be in the office any minute now.

He insist on the love thing.

Once again when I'm getting out of his car.

MD: I love you. Do you love me?

Me: I don't know.   I might. I love you fraternally.  I gotta go. (jumps out the car)

I haven't seen him since.  He hasn't been coming to work because he's been moving from house. 

Well.  Things have improved at home.  Crab is making an effort with Mini and with me and I'm making an effort too.  I think this may be a good thing

We also had sex and he enjoyed it.  So that's always nice.

Say What?

Not reading into anything but...

Saturday I was getting out of MD's car and I was like

M: Okay, I'll see you Monday.

and he was all...

MD: Bye, Love you.

Huh?

Dude...

Don't...

I was like...

M: Bye

lol

The Apple Didn't Fall Far

This just happened and I'm cracking up on the inside....

Watching TV.  Me and Mini and Crab (yeah he's not gone yet).  Commercial for BlackPeopleMeet.com comes on

Mini:  Mommy you should go on that website! You could probably meet a nice man to date!

Wow Mini with the passive aggressive shot at Crab!  He deserved it too!

DEAL BREAKER

Well I will tell you all it's for the best.  Especially for me.  There was one HUGE thing that I felt I couldn't deal with.  Worst than the no sex.  Worst than the no job.

I don't like the way he treats Mini.  It has always been a point of contention for me.  It has bothered me for a long time.  When he was living in his house it was one thing because I just didn't have mini around him that much. But now that he is in my home it just can't continue

He refuses to acknowledge my son.  Example

Mini: Wow Crab!  You have 3 of the same laptops
(Silence)
Mini: You have 3 of the same laptops?
(Silence)
Mini: Are all 3 of those laptops the same?
Me: Mini I don't think he heard you.
Crab: (to me not Mini) No they aren't the same. They're different.

See... I can't take that.  I just can't.  You heard my son ask you a question 3 times.  Then won't answer him directly.  AND I know for a fact that he heard him and just decided to ignore him because I never repeated the question.  That's just nasty.  Nasty.

Mini is a good kid.  I have tears in my eyes just typing this.  He is a good kid.  Smart.  Funny.  Caring.  He has never been disrespectful.  He doesn't deserve it.

So about a week ago I brought it up.  I said that I don't like the way he treats him.  He said it's not like I beat him.  He made all types of lame excuses and reasons why he treats my son the way he does and I ended the conversation with this....

He has an son the same age as Mini who loves hundreds of miles away.  The mother is now married. 

"How would you like it if Kim's husband treated Justin the way you treat Mini?  How would you like knowing that Justin had to live in a home with a grown man that purposely ignored him?"
(He admitted he wouldn't like it but then said it's different because that's Kim's husband)  So I said
"So because it is written on a legal document it changes what affects it would have on a child?  You came to his home.  And now he is made to feel uncomfortable in the one place that he's supposed to feel most comfortable.  I really don't want an answer.  I just want you to just give thought over the next few days.  Think about Justin and put him in Mini's place."

He still ignores my child.

This is just ONE of the things I don't like about his feelings towards Mini.

He's got to go.

End of story.

Welp

Crab packed his things up this morning and is leaving.

Unsure of how I feel about it.  If anything I feel sad but sometimes it takes me a while when something happens to feel any emotion at all.

Rambles

So I'm in the office basically doing nada.  MD isn't here but I can see from her car outside that his funky ass wife has decided to hang around like a sour dishrag today.  She needs a hobby.

Mind you I would never talk nasty about her if she hadn't confronted me.  She's an idiot.  I would say the best way to keep someone you don't trust from fucking your husband is to befriend her.  What an dumbass. 

Anyway...

Flash Post 2 - Drunken Style

Hmmmm

I don't think I'm true blue relationship material.  I think I'm a play the field forever type of chick.

Knowing is half the battle

Something good that I've realized is that I kept myself from having emotions for MD the first time for good reasons.  He's got his nice moments but he is essentially a scum bag.  The knowledge of his scumbaggery is a very powerful tool against the knowledge of his good-dickery