I don't know what it was. I don't know if it was his fresh haircut, or his big ol muscles in that shirt he had on last night or the Johnny Walker Black that I drank but I looked at Crab last night while I was at work and told him he was gonna get it! His wait was over.
Let me tell you. I usually get home, change my clothes, roll up my hair, put on my bonnet (yup you know the bonnet) and I'm out snoring with my mouth open, dead to the world OUT LIKE A LIGHT. I'm so tired and the very thought of sex is on the same accord as "Do you want to clean out the garage?" I just don't feel like it. EVER.
But I think it's causing issues. We go for months and months lately. And it's fine with me. But I think it's really starting to get to him. But he does things (or doesn't do things depending on how you want to look at it) that hurt the relationship as well. When we talk about it it usually ends up with a fight. So I decided to change my approach.
I decided to start leading by example. Fixing the issues he has with me to encourage him to fix the issues I have with him.
I've started saying positive things. It's often be followed by a sarcastic remark by him but I've begun to just smile and tell him "I'm not going down the negative road with you. Only speaking positively about our relationship right now!"
And I see it working. Yesterday I said something positive and he was about to say something smart... his mouth was open and he shut it! He stopped himself! He had a little smirk and I said "Hey I saw what you did there! Good Job!" And he laughed and I laughed. Whatever he might have said might had ended up with me grabbing my slow cooker and storming out the door.
Sidebar - That's what I do when I'm mad. I grab all the meat and the slow-cooker and make a dramatic exit!
So my taking the high road, Martin Luther King non-violent approach seems to be doing well!
And so he got head.
And he was happy.
And I chose a little glass dildo over the actual act. Compromise. I am the quicker one so it only takes about 2-3 minutes for me and then I can go to sleep. He got what he wanted and I got what I wanted plus a bonus Big O!